Moms, you are the centre of your child’s universe! You hold the home together. You remember to feed the hamster. You’re the one who’ll brave the weather to pick mulberry leaves from the tree at the very bottom of the garden so that the silk worms don’t die! If you weren’t there for your family, how would they manage?
Please see yourself as the most valuable asset to your family. You are to be treasured, nurtured and protected. You need your strength and your health.
If you are able to see yourself as your family’s most valuable asset, you must then agree that you have to invest in yourself. So often, moms sacrifice themselves by “putting their child first”. For example, do you still make time for a luxurious bubble bath? Have you thought of furthering your studies or starting a new hobby?
Do you spend a bit of money having a mani/pedi or does every last cent of your budget go towards school fess, visits to the Spur, extra mural fees etc. Yes, those are so important and we all want to give our children the very best opportunities in life but at the end of the day, a child can have the most awesome piano teacher in the world but if he/she comes home to a grumpy, unhappy mom … your child is disadvantaged. Working moms find it particularly difficult to divide their time between their work responsibilities, running the home and being a mother; let alone nurturing themselves.
What do you need to do in order to look after yourself?
If you are at rock bottom and have totally neglected yourself, start by working on just one thing. This might be something physical e.g. setting aside time every day to exercise or going for a monthly back massage.
You might want to improve the spiritual aspect of your life e.g. joining a ladies bible study.
Emotionally, there might be issues which you have allowed to hold you back as a person. Please see a counsellor or life coach and get help to move on.
Remember “a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step” (Chinese proverb). I would like to encourage you to change the way you see yourself and go forward into the New Year realising your worth and value and while embracing your weaknesses, reach forward to change.
written by Wendy OConnor